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Defining objectives in our relationships can help us to create more meaningful connections. We may not always feel our relationships need to have an objective past the simple ability to share experiences, but, choosing to give our connections a purpose can enrich them beyond measure. By being clear about what we hope to gain from our relationships, we’ve a stronger awareness of the actions we need to take to meet our needs. Likewise, considering what we can offer the people in our lives can help us to feel more proactive in creating harmonious connections. As a result, our relationships become purposeful vehicles for creating more joy in our lives. With a clear objective in mind, you can attract the types of relationships that enrich your experiences today & every day.
Ever notice of those you know that the person with that innate ability to creatively work items into their home, wardrobe, offie space, &tc., are the very same people who have the knack for throwing cool gatherings with just the right mix of people, food & drinks? It’s true! If you find yourself having difficulty creating joy & harmony in your personal or work relationships, why not try “mixing it up” in your home? Or, try out a fresh & unexpected outfit / accessory combo? Beginning to practice clarity with both your personal relationships, as well as in your personal style will have you in expert territory in no time flat. Pretty soon, you’ll be throwing the killer soires!
Guy de Maupassant certainly has one view of “the bed.” The fact that he died at a young age after ongoing struggles with both physical and mental health kind of makes one think he probably spent a fair amunt of time in bed. Though, in one way, this kind of makes him an expert on the subject.
So, what does your bed really reveal about you? Think nothing? Think again. According to Cosmo:
Less is More?
If you’re into a minimalist look, you’re likely open-minded. Your bed mimics your Zen & unfussy attitude. The straightforward style shows you are direct and say what’s on your mind.
Cozy & Chill?
A style all about physical & emotional comfort shows you’re sentimental and loyal. Items like old quilts say your relationships, especially with friends, are important to you.
Girly & Chic?
A feminine bed suggests you crave feeling pampered & the bold colors say you’re outgoing. The eye-catching details indicate you thrive as the center of attention.
All Jumbled Up?
A rumpled bed indicates you’re a bit disorganized. But your messiness also means you don’t sweat the small details (like matching your sheets) & tend to be spontaneous.
Forget what you’ve heard about the eyes being the window to the soul. The bed you sleep in is the window. Your bed shows your personality, habits, hygiene & most of your irritating little idiosyncrasies. Your bed speaks volumes. Of course, we’re operating on the given that you hopefully have a bed. And, if you’re like us, you probably spend as much of your life as possible in that bed. And, what better way to get to know someone than to study the space they spend their unconscious time in? Whether you smother your bed in nice, fluffy pillows or strip it down to the bare minimals, a lot can be learned about you from your bed.
What is yours revealing?
When we come full circle there is the feeling that we have come to a familiar place but we are somehow different.
Life is a circular journey through our issues & processes, and this is why things that are technically new often seem very familiar. It’s also why, whenever we work to release a habit, change a pattern, or overcome a fear, we often encounter that issue one last time, even after we thought we’d conquered it. Often, when this happens, we feel defeated or frustrated that after all our hard work we’re still dealing with the same problem(s). However, the reappearance of a pattern, habit, or fear, is often a sign that we have come full circle, and that if we can maintain our resolve through one last test, we’ll achieve a new level of mastery.
When we come full circle, there‘s often the feeling we’ve arrived in a familiar place, but that we ourselves are somehow different. We know we can handle challenges that seemed insurmountable when we began our journey, & there’s the feeling we might be ready to take on a new problem, or some new aspect of the old problem. We feel empowered & courageous to have taken on the challenge of stopping a pattern, releasing a habit, or overcoming a fear, and to have succeeded. At times like these, we deserve a moment of rest & self-congratulation before we move on to the next challenge.
Coming full circle is like stepping into a clearing where, for a moment, we can see where we came from & where we’re standing at the same time. Remembering that we’ll be tested again is important, but it’s also imperative to pause &take a look at the ground we’ve covered, honoring our courage, our persistence, and our achievement(s). Then and only then can we begin the next leg of our circular journey with a deeper understanding of where we’re coming from and where we’ve been.
Understanding the nature of our industriousness helps us to direct our efforts into activities that are the most beneficial for us, which will ultimately make it easier for us to do things that give our lives greater meaning. Even though there are times when we think doing more will give us more, if we aren’t careful about what we do, we’re actually more likely to deplete our energy. Engaging in things that feed your soul & energize you will make the little extra you do give you much more than you imagined.
Fun isn’t something that is given or done to you, it is something you allow yourself to experience.
As adults, we often get so caught up in “grown up” business we can forget how to have pure, unadulterated F-U-N. This isn’t the kind of fun that comes from doing a specific kind of activity or being in a specific mood for fun. Rather, this is the fun born from the state of pure being. We see this kind of fun in small children who are so busy being fully present to their lives & in their own bodies that the glow of fun radiates from them just because they are alive: the delight that flashes across the eyes of a child who discovers water flows with the turn of the tap knob, or the squeal of pleasure from a young baby whose tongue is being tickled by cold ice cream; then there’s the full, infectious laughter of a child watching the same hat trick for the fiftieth time.
Back when we were children, this experience of pure delight didn’t have to come from a heightened, heady event in order for us to feel like our day had been made; and it can be that way for us again – IF we’re willing to remember & reconnect with the part of ourselves that knows how to be in the flow of fun.
You can begin this process by reminiscing on what was fun for you as a child. Think about what caused you to giggle in delight, or wriggle in pleasure, or burst into endless laughter that you couldn’t sit up straight no matter how much you wanted. Try spending a few moments with each memory & really feel what it was like to be in those experiences – allowing that feeling of pure fun to wash over you. It lives, in you – that feeling. It can’t be bottled, manufactured, or sold. You just have to call it back up in order to experience it again.
Pure fun happens when we’re fully engaged with ourselves & our world in every moment. It’s the spontaneous delight bubbling from us when we let go just long enough to bring it through; it’s the experience of natural, organic pleasure springing up from our bellies, through our souls, up through our faces down to our toes. We’ve naturally known how to have pure fun since we were babies & the flicker of lights caused us to jump to attention from the sheer enjoyment of being able to see. Approach your life today with the knowledge that pure fun isn’t something given or done to you; rather, it’s something you allow yourself to experience. So, get to spreading those fun wings & remember to stop sweating the small stuff, instead, embrace & turn these things on their head. WARNING: Once you start, you’ll have a hard time stopping.